How do we know?!

Many people ask this question, how do you know it's love? They ask themselves, their friends, families, they even read blogs and books, all hoping for the answer to this question. But is it really important to know the answer? Is this question the right one to ask when you're getting into a relationship??!

One way of looking into life, love, and marriage begins when you ask that question. When you're getting to know someone and you start to feel differently, like he or she is a totally separate world you're getting into. That's when you ask if it's love, craving an answer that'd lead to a step where you can't go back from, at least back the way you were. Because if you're in a relationship and you take that step when you realize you're in love, going back isn't exactly easy cause you're never you again that's because for better or for worse every relationship changes you.

Once you've taken that step and given all your heart to that significant other, usually there's a lot more questions to ask; mostly about love too.

People fall in love all the time, they get married, have kids, but not all of them get to the happily ever after part. Because life isn't a fairytale, dreaming about a prince whom will never come is just a way to kill time. The time you spend looking not for your soul-mate, but the one you'd think is your soul-mate. I'm not saying that there isn't such a thing as soul-mates, on the contrary, i believe there is. But the issue isn't whether or not soul-mates exist, finding them is. Sometimes people spend so much time searching and dreaming, then they meet someone and they fall in love; but where's the guarantee that this is their soul-mate?!

That's the thing, marriage doesn't come with a warranty, there's no guarantee what so ever that this is love, that this person is your soul-mate and you just have to take the risk.

So, I guess that makes the right question to ask is Is it worth it? Is he or she worth it?! For whether it's love, admiration, or just convenience it could lead to a successful life if the other is worth it.

So when you ask that question about if it's love, shouldn't you be asking How do we know it'll be enough?! Now that's a tough one to answer.

How do we know that whatever love we feel towards the significant other would be enough?! How do we know it'd last?!

How do I even believe that love stories last while I see homes falling apart and hearts being broken? How do one believe in love after experiencing, first hand, great romantic stories turn into tragedies?

These are a lot of questions, but these are the right ones. I'm a hopeless romantic, you know that kinda girl who'd do all and give all for the one she loves..yeah that's me. I thought for a long time that my problem was finding my soul-mate, making myself lovable, changing my look, whatever I was told that'd help me find my other half. And for a while I went along with everything I was told. I never had much confidence in myself, and I also thought that was part of my problem until I came to realize that what I really want in my soul-mate, the thing that'd actually make him my soul-mate is that he'd know exactly what I'm thinking, he'd know that I don't care how people see me I just care how he sees me, he'd know that I can dress up whenever I want but I choose to do that only for him, he'd know that I don't care if he looks like Edward Cullen or he's just an average looking guy but I care deeply how he thinks and acts, he'd know that I don't care if he's rich or has a car or a fancy house I just want to break the world record of happily married years. I want that guy who'd know all these things about me and think the same. And if that man doesn't exist then I'm wrong, there's no such thing as soul-mates.

I came to realize that what I want isn't a prince charming, or a white horse, or a fairytale, I just want my story to last, I want to find my other half who'd help me continue the story until the very end where everybody lived happily ever after despite the differences, the financial problems, the family feuds, despite whatever comes along the way. I just want someone to complete my life against all odds.